Finding Your Child’s Tribe

Having a child that isn’t like other children her age is challenging. Not only it is challenging for them intellectually, it is challenging emotionally and socially. And thus, it’s challenging for a parent to meet all of those needs. Especially at one time.

Madison found her “tribe” through the resources offered for Davidson Young Scholars and was so happy. She loves the online classes and her classmates from the online classes offered by Davidson Academy and Athena’s Advanced Academy. She has found her tribe online for the most part, but it’s also important to find it locally as well. Sometimes that can seem daunting and impossible. It can take many tries to find it by trying new things that you wouldn’t think would be a fit. It also may be a matter of waiting until the right age.

Over the years, Madison has found her tribe in different places. And when one door closed or stopped being the same you have to look for a new door to open.

Helping them find their tribe is very, very important. For a PG kid I feel it’s more important than academics. And listening to them on what works and what doesn’t is important as well. And of course actions speak louder than words, so you must have your eyes wide open.

It takes work as a parent of a gifted child to provide them with opportunities that allow them to choose their interests and what they like. And to be ok with them changing their mind. It can’t be based on what’s easiest or is in a parent’s best interest.

And that my friends is why parents of gifted kids are exhausted. LOL. But to see the happiness and the smiles is worth it all. Not just that, but the sense of fitting in. The sense of belonging to something that is bigger than just yourself and making a difference. Seeing that in your child is worth all of the ups and downs and changes.

Madison leads and we follow and support her, but we also provide different opportunities and make her move outside her comfort zone to try different things. You can’t grow if you are always comfortable.

She has to make sure she has had a change of heart before dropping something. It isn’t an instantaneous thing. It’s a process that takes awhile. And so is finding new interests.

Madison is always evolving. She always has and always will. I like structure and constants. I’ve had to move out of my comfort zone and have had to adapt to her choice of changing and growing. I had to make sacrifices financially for myself to make opportunities available for her (since she is not old enough to work.) I have had to continuously research different opportunities and activities for her. I have had to put myself in her shoes to think of good fits to pursue. And so far it’s been a great ride and continues to be. They are only young once and we only get one shot.

A child may be good at something, like really good, but that doesn’t mean they will enjoy it for the long run and that is ok. ❤️💕 It’s actually more than ok. Keep seeking new opportunities to try all the time. Some will click and a tribe might be found in the process. Many times over with the different seasons of life.

2 Comments on “Finding Your Child’s Tribe

  1. This is such an issue right now. My son is in 11th grade and we thought by now he would have friends but he doesn’t. We are actually considering moving him to a different school for his senior year just so he can find some peers. It is heartbreaking after all these years and knowing how hard he has worked to fit in more socially to see him still ostracized. One of his teachers told me he shouldn’t try to be friends with the “cool kids” but those are the kids whom he interacts with in his AP classes, music groups and theater.


    • I am so sorry. It is so hard. Is there an option for him to take dual credit classes at a local community college? Maybe volunteering? Finding peers is hard. I think finding mentors could be just as fulfilling? And that’s a good idea to consider switching schools. Hugs!!!!


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